My voice
What is constant in our lives?
What is actually constant in our lives? What is unchangeable?
I’ve been thinking about this a lot, because of the way many of us are raised. We tend to believe that if we manage to find something “unchangeable”, then it’s a sign that everything is as it’s supposed to be, so everything is great.
If we find that job and stay with it for 20 years — that means we succeeded.
If we find one husband and stay with him until we die — that means we’re successful, that we’re a good woman.
If we find one friend and stick to her for all our life — that means we’re a good friend.
And it’s like the more we can “lock in” one constant thing, the more we get this sensation of safety, of fulfilment, of being on our path.
The false safety of “unchanged”
But the realisation that has been with me for most of my life — and it’s only been getting louder — is that there is nothing constant in this life.
And especially in the years where my Kundalini energy has been so active, where I’ve been connected to the unseen, trusting what I can’t always explain (my husband is still finding his peace with that), it has taken me into deeper questions like: who am I? what is my voice? how do I speak to people? who am I really?
Am I funny or am I serious? Do I like luxury or do I connect more to spontaneity? What do I actually stand for? Beyond the luv yourself.
This was so present for me, especially last year. And even during this process — which became very present from around May 2025 — I realised I’ve been changing so much while trying to “find myself”.
And then the final drop came: this idea that stability is the goal, that “unchanged” equals safety, that “unchanged” equals success… it gives us a false sense of security.
“I’ve got my house, so I’m safe.” But who said you need to live in one house your whole life? And who said you need to buy it and renting is bad? Who said you only need to get married once? Who said you’re supposed to stay in one job forever?
And even more than that — this is not who we are.
We are energy in motion
We are born to be emotional beings. And emotion is energy in motion. Energy is changing all the time. Energy is nature. Nature is never standing still. There is always flow.
We go into summer, then into autumn and the leaves fall. Then winter comes — that hibernation stage — where we integrate everything we lived through, all the activity, all the expansion, and we become quieter so we can understand how we’re going to emerge. Then spring arrives and we start sprouting again, we start showing up again.
That is nature. And we are the same.
So in our nature… we are energy first. And this physical 3D body exists within that energy. It’s not the other way around. It’s not “energy is within us” — we are energy, and the body is within it, because we go so beyond our bodies.
We are meant to be ever-changing, ever-evolving, moving from one version of ourselves into another. And it’s not like we’re going backwards. This is the process of becoming who we truly are by removing the layers of who we are not.
Seeing change as negative is literally the opposite of what we need to do. This is our nature — so see it as something positive.
The paradox: unchanged in our changes
And here is the paradox that sounds ridiculous but is true: our nature is unchanged in the sense that we are ever-changing energy. So we are “unchanged” in our changes.
Accepting this polarity, accepting this duality… is one of the ways into non-duality.
Your voice isn’t something someone gives you
For me this has been so present, especially moving from 2025 into 2026, while finding my voice and realising that nobody can tell me what my voice is. Not a marketing person, not a branding person.
And we hear it from all corners: “I’m going to take you to new heights, I’m going to make you speak in a way people will listen.” But your voice is not something someone gives you. Your voice is what happens when you stop trying to sound like someone else.
And honestly, it doesn’t matter if you’re speaking a foreign language, and maybe you’re not the strongest in that language. I realised I can’t even speak my own language — Russian — in a way that feels fully authentic sometimes, because English is inside me now. I’ve lived in England since I was 19. English became my first language in the way I express myself, in the way I think, in the way I move through life.
So if you feel like “oh my God, I don’t know how to express myself” — just be you. Make “mistakes”, which are simply the experiences. Just one person decided to call them mistakes. Let people misunderstand you sometimes. They will still connect to your energy, but only if you’re speaking from your truth.
So what is your voice?
So what is your voice? Yes I ask it twice for a reason.
It’s okay to not know it. We don’t need to always know where we’re heading. Sometimes your voice is simply you being honest about the fact that you’re changing. Share that you are ever-changing — because you are energy, and you are meant to move.
Don’t bind yourself to the false stability of something “unchanged”, because there is no such thing. Trust the change. Trust the unfolding. Trust yourself.
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the only constant in life is change.- Heraclitus